I’m still here

but I disappeared up my own fundament with Things I Must Complete a couple of weeks ago, and am unlikely to find my way out before the middle of next week. Big wedding up on our hill this weekend. BIG wedding, although a wonderfully rural and unpretentious one. I have had a long to-do list, primarily a self-inflicted one, and have just this minute completed my last wedding favour (on a day when Harry has rewarded my mother’s long stint of doting care of him by copiously projectile vomiting in not one, but two car interiors) and I am, as they say, pooped.  But I am quickly running to you for advice before I crawl away to bed, because I am experiencing a sartorial sticking point with John.

John’s taste in shirts and ties runs to Sudden, and I have, as you can see, endeavoured to consult his taste while shopping. John is chauffering the bridesmaids, Bride’s mother, father and Bride herself to the church. These two facts have collided somewhat, and John feels that his customary flamboyance is not quite de rigueur when ferrying the VIPs du jour.

I have quietened the look down with an uncharacteristically plain tie, but he still feels that the flowery shirt, which I bought specially for this occasion, is simply too much when worn with his suit, which, when extracted from wardrobe hibernation, admittedly does appear to boast a louder pinstripe than I recalled it having. I have duly bought him another, stripey shirt, which pleases me much less. My heart is set on flowery, and I think he could get away with it.

What do you think? I mean, he won’t listen to you, either, but at least I’d have the satisfaction of knowing that A) I was not alone in my Flowery/Pinstripe advocacy or B) I’m not good at this Dressing business.

This, btw, is my hat box, and my hat fills it. There will be a short eclipse of the sun, totality in the UK south Midlands, shortly after lunchtime on Saturday.

Yes, I will give you photos. 🙂

19 Responses

  1. The tie, btw, is not the stringy thing it appears in the photo. And the suit’s pinstripe is rather louder in the flesh.

  2. I am a very conservative dresser with a husband even more so, but am definitely pro the flowery shirt with the plain tie. Is Harry a guest? What is he wearing?

  3. FLOWERY. there really is no question about it.

  4. Um, I’m sure he could pull it off!

    (I would not favor it myself, but I would think that anyone who wore it was exceptionally interesting!)

    Have a wonderful time at the wedding,

  5. Looks like fun!

    I will be the only dissenter so far and say that I’m not quite sure about the flowery. Like, as far as my personal sense of taste goes, it’s fine (presuming a joyful intent of loudness), but i’d err on the side of quieter when someone else’s wedding is involved.

    Although, now that I’m looking at it again, I’m softening, because you really won’t see much of the shirt at all, it’ll be mostly suit. And the shirt, on its own, is just so lovely. Need a full-length view!

    Fwiw, the striped shirt seems almost more Much to me, though. I think because it’d be stripes on stripes. Mixing the patterns up seems more appropriate.

    For fuck’s sake, why am I holding forth on this, though?? If I can find two unwrinkled pieces of clothing in the morning, I’m thrilled.

  6. I am married to a man who is an EXTREMELY conservative dresser and feel compelled to ask if you can find him a striped (or flowered!) tie and a plain shirt. See? Conservative. My husband also thinks that buttoned-down collars are of the devil and wears sterling silver collar darts, though, so he might be just crazy.
    The flowered shirt is lovely, just not what I’m used to. Though really, no one is going to be looking at him. Hopefully, they’ll be looking at the bride. If the flowered shirt is his style, and he likes it, I say wear it with the subdued tie.

  7. Definitely flowery!

  8. The flowered shirt for sure. He will look very dashing and very English. It is a lovely combination and I cannot wait to see your hat!

  9. Given he is driving the wedding party around perhaps you should ask the bride? She may have strong views and go all Bridezilla if she has a violent aversion to strips or indeed flowers. Personally I’d go flowers if I was just a guest but stripes if I was “in” the wedding unless I got bridal approval. Show us the hat ! we need to see the hat!

  10. Flowery. It’s lovely. And as you said, it’s not a PRETENTIOUS wedding. Get the chief bridesmaid to order him to wear the flowery. In my humble opinion, the stripes, with a striped suit, is Not Correct.

    In awe of hat-box.

    MEtaphorically sending you G&Ts and fanning you with a palm frond.

  11. Oh god I do love a good hat. Can’t wait for photos!

    (PS, calling them “Fascinators” makes me feel stabby. You?)

  12. Ah, I shall be prepared for the lack of sunlight on saturday then, thanks for the warning!
    Now, I’m sorry for what I’m about to say… but personally, flowery shirts make me nauseous. I have no idea why, but they do. So I’d go for the stripes, but I agree that stripes on stripes is a little much. I think men look best in pin-stripe suits with white shirts, hence why I made my husband buy said items.
    (Incidentally, when I went shopping with a friend once, she bought a pink and orange flowery shirt for her husband. I couldn’t give my opinion for fear I might throw up on it.)
    These are all just my personal issues though. Make him wear what you want – you’re the one who has to look at him all day, therefore you should be happy!

  13. I’m voting for the flowery one. I think John would look fabulous in it and as Laurel pointed out, you won’t see that much of it when he is all kitted out. And it so says ” Not at all stuffy”. But the stripes, no.

    And I’ll be on the lookout for the eclipse. Even though it will already be dark.

    Have a wonderful day!

  14. Loud and proud, baby! I like the flowery one, myself.
    A nice counterpoint to the ruggedly handsome farmer himself, I am convinced.

    Enjoy it!

  15. Love, LOVE the flowery shirt, just the thing for a summery country wedding. But…is it possible to rent a solid suit to go along with it, and just build a whole new outfit around that beautiful shirt? Yeah, I know that suggestion’s probably a bit much. If this really is a casual affair, I’m sure your bride will agree to go with John’s preferences, but you might as well and go ask her opinion if you think she’d care one way or another. I might be too old fashioned to think that pinstripes and flowery shirts are a go, but I feel a definite 70s “yeah baby” vibe to that striped shirt. Given my region of the world, I can easily imagine it accessorized with a thick gold neck chain and tufts of masculine hairy hair chest sticking out. If John would blanch at the sight of flowers, I’m not sure why he’s cottoning to all of those stripes instead.

    I hope you both enjoy the wedding, whatever you choose to wear!

  16. Definitely flowers for me too. Very, very nice. And glad you’re back!

  17. Another vote for flowers, it is a beautiful shirt in its own right and I think the pin stripe plus shirt stripe is too much.

  18. You should see my spouse’s taste in clothing. Enough said.


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